It has been said that time heals all wounds.
I don't agree. You must learn to love with all your heart and accept the unlovable side of others. Anyone can love a rose, but it takes a great heart to include the thorns.
I have learnt that as long as you live, you don't need anyone's affection or approval in order to be good enough.
And when someone rejects you, it is not actually your fault but is about them and their own insecurities, limitations and needs. Your worth isn't contingent upon other people's acceptance of you - it's something inherent. You exist and therefore, you matter. You are allowed to voice your thoughts, opinions and feelings. You are allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You're allowed to hold onto the truth and who you are is enough. And you are allowed to remove anyone from your circle who makes you feel otherwise. You don't ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are.
- Letter by Samuel Radebe, Heilbron
